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Comment from nammy on 2009-10-28

2009-10-29T04:44:47Z

what if lets say you use like a service like Skydeck which is free and downloaded app on her phone to see if shes cheating by seeing her text and she is the account holder on cell phone service and have been living seprated for 4 months but still married and not legal seprated and are still involved in relationship together.Could you still get in trouble for that?

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Comment from BAHMAN on 2009-09-15

2009-09-15T18:36:04Z

You should have "DONE UNTO HIM BEFORE HE HAD A CHANCE TO DO UNTO YOU". Had you done so, you wouldn't have any reason to turn into a sneaky "HACKER". All's fair "IN LOVE and WAR" baby.

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Comment from chmacka on 2009-09-15

2009-09-15T17:43:39Z

I don't agree with hacking into anyones e-mail accounts (or hacking into somebody's privacy), but I keep wondering, why are these people using passwords so easy that someone can access their e-mails by just guessing what the password is?

Make yourself a system for creating passwords (e.g. every password contains some letters you choose and some numbers - which you will use for every password, then 3rd and 5th letter in the address of the site you're registering at and 4th and 7th letter of you're user name).

Nobody can guess it and if you remember those random numbers and letters you will never forget your password - no matter how many sites you register at.

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Comment from matt on 2009-04-30

2009-04-30T15:31:47Z

Yes it's illegal and unethical. Legally it's a Federal Crime. You could be sued, and/or the person you hacked can report you to authorities and you would be arrested on grand theft as per the privacy act. The site can track you via ip address which is tracked by them the second your on the site, they do not need a court order to do it and it's very easy for them since you used a user name that they can look up and see when you logged in. They can also alert the authorities who intern will track you ip address and arrest you. Most likely the site will make the user change his/her password or possibly delete the account. If that's all that happens, count your self lucky and don't do it again. Hacking is wrong, but the only people who are capable of it and not get caught are computer savy (techs and teens) people. You have to know how to not leave a trail, like set up gost computers which will bounce your ip to several different places (cities or countries).

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Comment from Long Dong on 2009-04-28

2009-04-29T03:03:40Z

I would say....It all depends on the relationship between the said couple. IF the relationship was within, lets say 1 year. The NO, they should NEVER look at a persons PRIVACY! BUT, on the other hand, IF the relationship was around 5+ years or longer, and a very committed relationship? I say HELL YES! That person has EVERY right possible to know who their partner is "possibly" sleeping around with! I say a 5+ yr or longer relationship, that is "supposed to be a committed and trusting relationship, then there should NOT be anything to hide! PERIOD! If there is something to hide then it is for a reason that cannot be good for the relationship! If the relationship was open, committed AND honest, then there is simply NOTHING that you wouldn't want your mate to see that would be affecting the relationship! UNLESS...there IS infidelity! Its called CHEATING because the person doesn't want to get caught....AND IT IS WRONG IN EVERY WAY! It outweighs looking at an EMAIL by TONS!

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Comment from BKP on 2009-04-28

2009-04-29T02:44:51Z

I would have to agree....MY LIFE is in my partners hands! If one was to even think about hacking into an email address then there is obviously a lack of trust anyways! lets say....the so called "hacker" had already confronted their mate and they have a very bad feeling that the confrontation was not truthful? Does the hacker just say..."Okie Dokie"? I dont think so, I firmly believe that person has every right to know the TRUTH by whatever means necessary! To a certain extent though! Of course, you can not tie the person up and beat them til they break! But to look into your wifes email or say a cell phone? Perfectly OK! Like I said, there would have to have been a certain amount of NON-TRUST to begin with, So if the hacker didnt find anything during the "hack". Then that trust level should come up a bit and that person could breathe a lil sigh of relief! BUT, 9 times out of 10, IF you think/believe your spouse is cheating? HE/SHE PROBABLY IS! The law would NEVER hold up for looking at your mates password protected cell phone NOR would it ever hold up for looking at your spouses personal emails!

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Comment from good thinker on 2009-04-26

2009-04-26T11:49:29Z

Yes, this is wrong that anyone hack into someone's personal privacy. Now!! i am thinking why god help human being to think for hacking.

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Comment from Jamie on 2009-03-09

2009-03-09T16:47:59Z

This is ridiculous. How would you feel if someone hacked into your account? True people say we have the right to know blah blah blah. But by hacking into emails and facebook account even mere guessing the password correctly, it crossed the line and is against the law. It's called abuse of technology. It's equivalent to opening someone else's mail. Nevertheless, in spite of the excuses about having the right to know, hacking is AGAINST THE LAW and don't be surprised if the law doesn't take the side of the hacker.
Let's say because your loved one is in Iraq, you are so paranoid that you somehow hacked into the US military database to see where he or she is. Now how would the government respond to this digital trespass?

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Comment from Larry on 2009-02-26

2009-02-27T02:51:42Z

Kathy... Report it!!! The laws are gray when it comes to bf/gf h/w if hacked computer if live in same house with shared access to computer. Expectation of privacy is... not yet defined. However, work computers and work emails are definately off limits and it is highly illegal to hack work stations or email.

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Comment from Kathy on 2009-02-25

2009-02-26T03:20:18Z

My email address was hacked into by my bosses girlfriend I was looking for a place for myself and had some house appointments in my in box. She accused him of going to move in with me. She is a complete psycho I have no interest at all in my boss as I am attracted to the opposite sex. Not only this she has invaded my privacy by going into the work account and reading personal emails from my solicitor to me. She is continually harassing me and she said to my face” that she is watching me” when I confronted her because she was continually making up lies and telling my boss then he would call me in for a verbal warning for something I didn’t do. Some people think to highly of themselves invading peoples lives is wrong the amount of stress I have had in the past 6 months is unbelievable. Apart from her constant interference I really love my job and the pay is great. Please give me some advice

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Comment from karl on 2009-01-13

2009-01-13T14:33:24Z

Well I agree with you guys about figuring out if the person Is cheating . But what if the gf/bf hack into the account and finds nothing irrelevant such as a couple of emails from other females or males? Is the considrered cheating? Or may I ask. Is flurting such as sending friendly emails considered an act of cheating on another?

Hacking is bad, no matter what the reason. Period. As for the rest - I'm a computer geek. You don't ask computer geeks for relationship advice.

- Leo
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Comment from Tara on 2008-10-02

2008-10-02T19:26:04Z

Hey Sophie,
If you find out he is cheating, who cares if he trusts you???? Like you said the relationship will be over so what does it matter if he does or doesn't trust you? You wouldn't be doing something like that if he wasn't going behind your back in the first place!! If someone is cheating on me and wants to deny it, I'm going to do anything in my power to find the truth. That's putting my health into his hands and being careless with it. If he's got someone on the side, there's no telling how many that person has on the side, and so on....

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Comment from Sophie on 2008-09-09

2008-09-09T15:42:05Z

Wow, a lot of the women have issues. If you suspect your boyfriend or husband is cheating the best thing to do is confront him, leave him or get counseling. Trust me once he finds out that you hacked his computer. He won't trust you
anymore even if you find out in fact he is cheating. The relationship will be over.

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Comment from Joe Lia on 2008-07-22

2008-07-22T10:34:56Z

Folks get a grip. If you spouce, boyfriend or girl friend is cheating on you. You have every right to know. When you take a step back and figure they could give you a deadly disease. Do what ever it takes to find out and put an end to your relationship. There are stealthy programs to help with this. Very good ones as well. I know I used it and found all i needed to know in just 1 evening. Forget the expensive private investigator. These programs are cheaper and get the job done better.

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Comment from Maureen on 2008-07-15

2008-07-15T19:51:06Z

My mother has an email account. But it appears that information and settings keep being changed on her: emails deleted. What can she do to regain all of this lost information? Stop someone who is doing this? Or find out who is doing this? She would like her privacy back.

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Comment from Gloria Robinson on 2008-06-17

2008-06-17T12:14:42Z

I believe my daughter knows my password to my email account. I was upset and expressing my upset to a friend. who my daughter doesn't know. my daughter seems angry at me so I think she snooped into my email I would like to know if I can find out if and when she did. Can I do this myself?

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Comment from sharon on 2008-02-20

2008-02-21T00:25:05Z

is there a something on my computer that tells me someone has access to my e-mail?

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Comment from Hollie on 2008-02-19

2008-02-19T23:50:56Z

I agree with Donna and Ilahna completely. Especially if you are married. You really aren't legally allowed any secrets when you are married. During a divorce you can serve discovery if you feel that your spouse is keeping things secret and you can subpoena bank accounts, email accounts, anything. So the whole official response to the initial question was complete BS and I agree - it must have been posted by a cheater. I feel bad the person was even worried about getting in trouble for guessing her man's password. I call that genius! :-)

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Comment from Ilahna on 2007-12-02

2007-12-02T23:26:54Z

I agree with Donna, if you suspect your partner of going behind your back in any shape or form and destroying your soul basically, why the hell shouldn't you try and confirm your suspictions. In those circumstances, legallity can kiss my arse, I'll hack, find out and depending on the outcome I will always confront in relation to what I will find. BTW I have always been upfront about my hacking capabilities to boyfriends and they get warned plus I will always ask first if they're hiding something.

I found out my ex husband had slept with a number of men this way - go figure!

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Comment from Donna on 2007-10-16

2007-10-16T15:08:31Z

Oh, and based on Rodney's previous comment about looking for attention? Bullshit. It's about finding security in a relationship that is falling apart, and trying to rectify a problem that is not yours but eventually becomes yours. Why the hell do you think that people pay top dollar for private investigators to determine if a spouse or partner is cheating? Perhaps you are fortunate that you've never been cheated on. In that case, you must experience it some time--the fear, the anxiety, the grief, the shame. It's a feeling you'll never forget, guaranteed. Put yourself in another's shoes before you judge. Or perhaps, you're a cheater yourself and you are justifying the outcome?

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Comment from Donna on 2007-10-16

2007-10-16T15:02:06Z

Hello,
Just a quick note. I too experienced a cheating boyfriend who would register his name and profile on various site (the cheap buggar only went on free sites, of course.) I finally figured out his password for his email and kept account of his messages to and from women (one particular women, Michelle, he's living with now, who cheated on her live-in boyfriend to be with him at the time he was seeing me...he wrote he'd like to do her in a hot tub, and she responded in kind). One even came from a husband of one of the women! (he got angry that Bob sent a naughty message and warned him to not even try to communicate again.) I finally approached him...the guilt and the pain were too much to bear. Instead of acknowledging his wrongdoings, he actually told the issue was mine, "trust", and the lack of it. What a wanker! I finally caught him in the act after his son ratted on him. He got so mad, he kicked his son out of the house for three days and screamed on the phone to me for one hour. I say, you did what you suspected was correct, and you now know this man is not fit for you. I spent four years being abused by him, and his philandering cost me my confidence and affected how I deal with other men. Grab some pride and kick him out. Let him have the women he wants...they just won't be you. Put out there that you deserve a better man, and the universe will provide it. Healing takes time too, so be gentle with yourself.

Take care and good luck,

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Comment from Leo A. Notenboom on 2007-06-07

2007-06-07T22:54:10Z

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Comment from niles schwartz on 2007-06-07

2007-06-07T19:23:07Z

i am in the early stages of a divorce and my wife's attorney submitted hard copy of my personal email account. in other words, she hacked into my email. we have been legally seperated since 10/06 and the email she produced today (6/7/07)was dated april '07. can she do this? if not, is this a civil or criminal issue? if you can not help, do you know of a good resource?

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Comment from Rodney on 2007-03-24

2007-03-25T06:09:31Z

I agree with Carl, Nor do i want to read about someone's personal "drama's" , and i do agree with leo, If you do something like that, Then yes , you do deserve to get into trouble, it is extrememly lame and pathetic.

Seems to me the majority of you people who are asking " how can i hack my bf/gf e-mail" are either seeking attention, like talking about the drama in your life ( Which not everyone wants to hear), want sympathy from others.

Karma - "deed or act;" more broadly describing the principle of cause and effect

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Comment from Dana on 2006-11-24

2006-11-24T21:18:33Z

how can i hank in to my boyfriend msn

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Comment from Leo Notenboom on 2006-11-12

2006-11-12T17:20:28Z

That's this article: http://ask-leo.com/how_do_i_hack_into_someones_account.html

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Comment from jasmine on 2006-11-12

2006-11-12T17:11:06Z

how do you get someone's password on myspace make it real simple for me

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Comment from Leo Notenboom on 2006-09-18

2006-09-18T23:40:09Z

Trust him? Get a new boyfriend?

Hacking his myspace is NOT the answer, that's for sure.

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Comment from Tina on 2006-09-18

2006-09-18T17:57:44Z

i don't know my boyfriends password on myspace and he won't tell me what it is and I don't want to think he's cheating on me. what to do?

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Comment from danny on 2006-09-16

2006-09-17T03:07:25Z

Which is sort of funny you know. Because the American government is doing the same to its citizens.

Ah, the wonders of irony.

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Comment from Martin on 2006-09-15

2006-09-16T06:20:32Z

In one way I agree with Carl...this is a computer newsletter. But, this topic/problem seems to be universal.
....my wife knows what I do online anyway.

We have a pair of 16 yr-old girls. There is no way I apologize for reading what they get via our ISP mail service. They don't even know their own password(s). I choose them and change them often, which is the price they pay for using OUR computer....and online access.

I don't even bother with their hotmail or Yahoo accounts. Sorta figure if they let 94 million! other people have access to their MySpace mail, why should I? Nor should I have misgivings for reading their mail.

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Comment from Carl on 2006-09-15

2006-09-15T20:09:21Z

Please ignore these types of questions Leo. I want a computer newsletter. I DON'T want to read about some "slug's" soap opera. Thanks!

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Comment from Marc on 2006-09-15

2006-09-15T18:29:47Z

I am a retired Attorney, and forensic criminalist. It is , on all counts, a felony. More then 1 felony, if prosecuted. and for sure they know that someone was there, maybe they think it was your sig. other. But they know someone was logged in.

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Comment from Roger Huston on 2006-09-15

2006-09-15T16:59:17Z

Gee, I wonder why your boyfriend is on match.com in the first place? Could it be that he can see the real you?

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Comment from mroonie on 2006-09-14

2006-09-14T20:50:33Z

Haha...this is hilarious...

Don't worry Leo, you aren't a Dr. Phil but well said. I agree with you whole heartedly.

This post reminds me of the HP Dunn scandal.
http://www.iwantmyess.com/?p=100
Although she wasn't going to misuse the information, her tactics in acquiring the data and accessing it was a big no-no....

Honestly, people don't seem to be aware of how easy it is to track online activities. I for one hate it when people snoop around in my business so I always make sure to protect myself. This includes encrypting sensitive documents that are stored on my computer, in motion through email, or being used by others. That doesn't mean I do bad things and then cover my tracks. I have nothing to hide. But for those of us who lack common sense about one's privacy, I don't want to be one who falls victim to such people. Whoever thinks that accessing someone's password isn't a breach on privacy are missing a few marbles....

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Comment from Don Davis on 2006-09-14

2006-09-14T15:22:19Z

After a 35yr career in law enforcement I can assure you that a very large percentage of our population only repect personal rights when they are their own. Many feel if they are the first to complain society should take their side against the other party. Many expect others, including the police, to commit criminal acts because they ask them to. Few even consider out laws and instututions should protect and serve every member not just a select few. One cynical old man.

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