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Someone has posted an entry on a blog that contains my e-mail address and a picture of me. I can not find this info and people are sending me e-mails asking to date me. I am married and have never put a blog on the internet like this. This is causing problems in my marriage. I just want to find this and delete it. What do I do?

Sadly, this kind of harassment isn't all that uncommon on the internet, basically because it's so easy to do. Normally I see it among teenagers or kids with nothing better to do.

It's also one of the reasons I firmly believe that the days of having a single email address are over. As part of maintaining our privacy for both this, and things like spam, I advocate a multiple-email address strategy that would allow you to discard the email address being used in this harassment. More on that in my article over on How many email addresses do you need?.

Your options on what to do next are limited.

If you truly cannot find the location that your email address has been posted, then, to be honest, I'm not sure what you can do, other than change your email address, and completely delete or ignore the old one. It's extreme, but it reminds me of similar situations via telephone where people who've been receiving threatening phone calls change to an unlisted number.

It works, simply because that old email address is no longer you.

However, I would not give up trying to find the source, because once you have it there are a couple more steps you can try.

First, I don't know the nature of the emails you're getting, but if you feel comfortable with it, explain the situation and ask the sender where they found your email address. This must be done with caution, and only if you feel comfortable doing so. (I'll also talk about involving law enforcement in a second, and this might be a step that they would help with.)

"I often recommend contacting the authorities in a case like this."

Keep searching. Use several search engines; Google, MSN, Yahoo,, and search for your email address. Use one or more of the blog-specific search engines such as technorati. It's possible that the site containing the address will eventually be indexed by one or more of them, at which point you can find out exactly where it is.

Once you do, you should immediately raise the issue to site owner, insisting that they remove the post. If you don't get satisfaction, you can also try raising the issue to the ISP providing the server space for the site. You can locate the ISP by performing a search on the IP address at

Now I do have to caution you that even if the post is removed, the memory may linger. For example, it's possible that other sites will have copied the post. Archival sites, such as, do on so purpose to maintain archive "snapshots" of the internet. Search sites often retain a cached copy of pages for some time. And some blogs often generate their own content by simply slurping up the content of other blogs. You can certainly keep searching, and keep requesting that the content be removed each time you find it, but in my opinion it's a losing battle.

I often recommend contacting the authorities in a case like this. Depending on the nature of the email that you're receiving as a result, they may take it quite seriously. The problem is that depending on the specific authorities you contact - local police, FBI, others - they may simply not be technically savvy enough to deal with the situation, or they may simply not have the resources to prioritize your issue to actually get attention. But I would definitely consider this approach, if only to formally record the issue.

In the end you may have little practical recourse. Depending on the specifics of what's happening, you can either treat it like spam, and delete the objectionable email as it arrives, or you can change your email address and stop paying attention to that old address completely. Both have their drawbacks.

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Leo Leo A. Notenboom has been playing with computers since he was required to take a programming class in 1976. An 18 year career as a programmer at Microsoft soon followed. After "retiring" in 2001, Leo started Ask Leo! in 2003 as a place for answers to common computer and technical questions. More about Leo.

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Greg Bulmash
March 14, 2006 4:58 PM

Depending on the state she's in, the post may run afoul of cyberstalking or harrassment laws which could allow her to file a criminal complaint or get a restraining order.

She needs to keep copies of all the e-mails she's getting to help provide evidence of the harm this post has caused, especially if her only recourse is to seek a restraining order.

If she can't get the DA to go after the initial offense, but can get the restraining order, then if the jerk posts again, that's a violation of the restraining order which the DA can more easily prosecute.

- Greg

June 2, 2006 8:43 PM

i am here to say thank to you to yahoo.but i am remove my email address
i really no money to look my email,
thank u

July 4, 2006 10:15 PM

how do i delete my msn acount forever?

July 14, 2006 3:46 AM

Hi there can you please remove my imail account because som people are treating at me Many Thanks

August 4, 2006 9:03 PM

i want to know how to remove this email address that am emailing now to you

September 13, 2006 7:23 AM

I would like to delete my E-mail address. please??

September 20, 2006 5:22 PM

please can you remove my email address, i wont to start over. Thank you

Leo Notenboom
September 20, 2006 6:01 PM

Remove it from what?

teresa morris
March 4, 2007 1:52 PM

i don't want it anymore

July 16, 2007 7:16 AM

How do i permanently delete my email address, which i am using now? Thanks

Michael Dunn
March 14, 2008 11:00 PM

There are many services out there that can be used to track you dopwn by your email address. is a perfect example of such a resource that can help someone track you down. I would recommend update your email address with an incorrect address or phone number if you don't want someone to track you down.

April 30, 2008 3:07 PM

How do I delet my business address from google

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